Picking a second name however seems to be maybe more difficult. We have already used up the first choice name if it is a boy and we are not set yet on a girl's name.
One of our main considerations is how the name sounds phonetically when combined with our surname. Because our surname ends with an 'ie', most first names that end with the same sound, don't really roll off the tongue so well.
I am happy that my wife is like me in the fact she thinks second or middle baby names are a waste of time. And she is also not so worried about baby names and their meanings. She is from Germany though, so we do have to worry a little about how a name sounds when it is pronounced in both English and also in the German way, which can be different.
For me I want my child to have a name they can be proud of for their whole life.
I prefer a short strong name with only one syllable for a boy, or two for a girl. I live in Australia, so people are always going to shorten a name anyway though. Tom's official name is Thomas, and now I regret not being confident enough to just call him Tom, because that is what everyone is going to call him all his life anyway, and he is going to have to tell many people in his life that it is Thomas. But I guess he would have had to do that anyway, explain that it was just Tom.
From a girls point of view, one thing I don't want to do is go for a trendy name or that of a famous person at the moment. I wouldn't like people to always think of someone else when they heard my name.
My wife will probably decide on this name, especially if it is a baby girls name. It makes sense to me to let her have the final say, because I was the one who really chose Toms name. Even though it really chose itself. When I told my brother for example that we were having a boy, his first comment about a name was 'well at least choosing a name is a no brainer'.
It is strange too that the names which were some of the other options the first time around, are not really in the running this time. I guess you don't want your second child to have to settle for the second most preferred name from the first child.
Like most people we have a short list of possible baby names that we will choose from. But this kind of changes as the days goes by. I am sure we will probably come back to one of the original names. I can tell you if you don't have kids, choosing baby names is not easy. But it is kind of fun too.
There are lots of websites with lists of baby names sorted into different directories. This is a good way to find boys or baby girls names.